"Never go on trips with anyone you do not love," ~ Ernest Hemingway
Usually sea days are pretty unremarkable, but a couple of things happened that I find myself thinking about long after the moments passed.
The first was terribly distressing. We'd met up with Kristy and David and had a lovely supper together in The Restaurant. Our entertainment was a tribute singer who specialized in Adele songs. Don't hate me, but I am not a fan. When Adele sings, I feel like she's either yelling or yodeling at me. I figured someone pretending to be her would be even worse.
So the DH and I suggested a trip to Deck 9 to see if we could make out any southern constellations. Our friend David is a very knowledgeable astronomer. This is one of his photographs of the Horsehead Nebula in Orion's belt taken with his beloved telescope, "Stellina." So we knew we'd have a great guide for this little adventure.
But before we could board the lift for Deck 9, we met another couple coming out of the elevator. Sadly, the old gentleman seemed confused and unable to push his wheeled walker in a way that was safe. His arms stretched forward, but his feet didn't want to follow. His female companion was visibly frustrated with him, and abandoned him, disappearing around the corner muttering under her breath as she went. The DH and David came alongside the man, supporting him so he wouldn't fall, and asked him where he wanted to go.
"I don't know," he said softly. I slipped around the corner to where the hostess station for the Restaurant was, to see if a wheelchair could be called for him. The woman was there, fuming about how he should have brought his scooter. She returned for him, took hold of his upper arm, and started dragging him along.
"You're hurting me," he told her.
"I don't care." And she propelled him around the corner to where they were presumable going to have dinner.
I was a little shaken by the whole incident. I'm not sure they were husband and wife. She seemed some years his junior, but that may have just been the difference in their general health. However, her callousness toward him was hard to watch. The opposite of love isn't hate. It's contempt. If I ever thought the DH felt that level of contempt toward me...life would not be worth living.
But I don't know this woman's life. Being a caregiver is grindingly hard, physically and emotionally. God knows, I couldn't stand up under the scrutiny of my worst moments. I can't judge her by hers.
Still, it made me sad and reminded me how very precious each moment is. As I'm nearing my 67th birthday next month, I know the future undoubtedly holds changes and unforeseen ends. Relationships are the most precious things we have in this world. To reach the "winding down" years and discover a primary relationship is not the solid rock of comfort and support you thought it was would be like descending to the 9th circle of hell.
Witnessing this small crisis made me so very thankful for my husband and the love we share. It's something we must never take for granted, but nurture and care for each other daily, whatever the day brings.
Okay, that was the "down." And now for the "up's" portion of this post...
We found Deck 9 forward and discovered that the running lights had been turned off. This was incredible. The sky was as black as the heavens were when we lived in Wyoming. We could see the Milky Way, something light pollution usually washes out, spilling in a river of cloudy stardust across the sky. David began searching for the Magellanic Clouds, which are actually a couple of small satellite galaxies that orbit our own Milky Way, but David decided they may still be below the horizon.
As dark as it was, it took us a minute to realize we weren't alone on that deck. It was hard to see each other's faces, but another man was there, considering the stars, and using a laser pointer to site them. We fell into conversation with him and finally David asked if he was a member of the crew.
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Not this Olaf, obviously! |
"Yes," he said, "I'm the captain!"
It was our very own Captain Olaf, searching for the 43 stars sailors used to navigate by before the world of GPS. We were so excited to discover he shared our interest in astronomy and was curious enough to turn off the lights so he could see the stars.
We should have recognized him by his voice because he gets on the shipwide intercom at noon every day to give us our position, temperature, and updates on our Covid status, which is still holding at zero cases, Praise God! His Norwegian accent is so strong, that Captain Olaf (along with Uncle Torstein) could easily slip unnoticed into one of the DH's family reunions!
Anyway, after a while, he took his leave from us, because after all someone has to drive! And he warned us to be careful in the dark. He'd be turning the lights on again in a few minutes.
I won't be surprised if the captain does a more formal version of this stargazing at some point. Especially as we near the bottom of the world...
Tomorrow, we pull in to Panama City, another bit of terra incognita for us!
More soon...